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A Blot On What Should Have Been an Entirely Wonderful Evening

Self-absorbed smoker puts a damper on the writer's evening.

On Sept. 14, my wife and I celebrated a notable event with dinner at one of Upper Saint Clair's loveliest and finest restaurants, a place which offers al fresco dining by a stream. It was an ideal night for outdoor dining, which is what we requested.

The weather was perfect and the setting peaceful, relaxing, and intimate until to our surprise, it was ruined by an individual at the next table (within four feet of us) who lit the first of several cigarettes she would enjoy throughout the evening.


I wondered if this inconsiderate person could have been acted without the consent of the restaurant in smoking, but then saw that she had a large ashtray which was obviously provided by the establishment, sanctioning the ability to smoke.

I know that this facility is co-owned by an individual who has a full-time position in the respiratory therapy field, which causes him to be intimately familiar with those who have committed slow suicide through smoking, destroying their lungs. I was incredulous that this restaurant, of all places, would be stuck in a bygone era, in which we failed to recognize the harm that cigarettes and secondhand smoke do to others.

I find it difficult to believe that in 2012, someone would have the audacity to smoke while essentially sitting next to diners whom it would be reasonable to conclude do not welcome the intrusion, but my primary beef is with the restaurant, which not only accommodates smokers over non-smokers outdoors, but which did not even warn us that sitting there could subject us to the rude and self-absorbed individual.

We quickly approached the hostess to request an inside table, and she was gracious, understanding, and apologetic. A distinguished couple that then was dining indoors next to us and which had seen us outside asked if we came in due to the cool temperature. We explained the situation, and they joined in our disgust over the unfairness of the outdoor area of the restaurant being devoted to the one smoker who had no compunction about ruining it for everyone else. 

Close to 40,000 people that attend Pirates games at PNC Park when the event is sold out, a number which surely includes thousands of smokers, are somehow able to avoid indulging at least until they leave the ballpark, but our dining neighbor could not refrain for ninety minutes in consideration of others.

I hope the smoker and her party enjoyed their evening at the restaurant. At this establishment, she and her nicotine addiction come first; the heck with every other diner that did not wish to have a main course of first class carcinogen with their mushroom risotto and breaded zucchini.

As one with Libertarian underpinnings, I believe that an adult should generally have the ability to do whatever he or she wishes so long as their action does not have a detrimental effect on others. If one wishes to destroy their life and the lives of those who love them through smoking, go right ahead, but display a modicum of good manners and courtesy and leave me out of it, especially while I am eating.

I wonder how many readers of this article believe that state legislation which rendered most public places smoke-free should be repealed, that we should return to the era in which we were subjected to smoke-filled restaurants, offices, and retail establishments. I suspect that the number of individuals who would increase the prevalence of smoking in public facilities is infinitesimal.

At this restaurant, the doctrine of caveat emptor (which in this case, translates to "let the diner beware") should be kept in the forefront of one's mind.

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Ed M September 17, 2012 at 11:13 am
Did you bother to ask the management if smoking was allowed? Instead of ranting, do something! Oh and don't walk on the streets. Smoking is allowed.
Becky Brindle (Editor) September 17, 2012 at 02:41 pm
Just had to delete a comment because it violated the Patch terms of use you all agreed to when you first logged in. No personal attacks please.
Mike Jones September 17, 2012 at 02:44 pm
Welcome back, Becky!!
Allison K September 17, 2012 at 04:29 pm
just wanted to point out that the writer is entitled to, and is expressing, his opinion. much like the comments here. play nice!
Outraged Citizen September 17, 2012 at 04:56 pm
This blog entry gave me the chuckle I so needed today. It is evident the poster was looking to be offended. Why else would the poster quickly approach the hostess to ask for an inside table and yet continue to glare at the inconsiderate smoker as she continued to smoke throughout the evening? Why not just put the incident behind you and have that evening you were so looking forward to enjoying?
Our friend here is one who seeks to be offended. Folks like the poster scour restaurants for smokers, stalk convenience stores for those people drinking sodas they feel are too large or scan public property for nativity displays just so they have something to rail against. @Allison K – You’re right, the poster has every right to express their opinion. The right to express that opinion is no right of acceptance of that opinion. It appears many here feel the poster was a little over sensitive and maybe a tad self important. I happen to agree. That’s the risk you run when you make your opinion public.
Mike Jones September 17, 2012 at 05:31 pm
Oren... If you're a practicing libertarian and are so offended the restaurant allows people to smoke there, then you should never return to eat there again. It's a simple solution.
Stella Neely September 17, 2012 at 05:57 pm
I agree with the writer, he should've been told that he could be subject to someone smoking. You other people, let me guess, you love everything about the world and have NO pet peeves! I'll even bet that you don't care when a person gets in the fast lane and drives for 5 miles, holding back traffic, because up the road they are going to turn left. You go Owen! I'm on your side!!!!
Coleen Wheeler September 17, 2012 at 06:01 pm
The analogies some of the posters use do not apply. A meat eater or lesbian is NOT affecting another person's health. A smoker is directly impacting the people around them healthwise. This has been proven beyond a shadow of a doubt. I agree that smokers should be able to refrain from smoking during a meal. If you are that addicted, eat at home where your smoke will not affect my health.
Ed M September 17, 2012 at 06:01 pm
Apparently, according to the writer, there were ash trays out there so it should have been obvious. And to complain about a behavior that was allowed is, well selfish.
Sue T September 17, 2012 at 06:42 pm
If the writer was concerned about his health, why did he sit in the area that was clearly the smoking section (ash trays on tables). I don't like smoke around me during meals either, but for that reason I don't sit in the smoking area.
Ed M September 17, 2012 at 06:50 pm
Just an FYI, this establishment allows smoking while dining outside.
Logan Wheatcraft September 17, 2012 at 07:45 pm
Why was the point conveniently ignored of the asthmatic who IS affected healthwise by others' decisions (cologne/perfume)?
Sue T September 17, 2012 at 08:48 pm
Logan, there is a difference that I can see. There are laws that designate where you can and can not smoke. This restaurant has established an area that is within the law, which they have every right to do (and the patrons have the rigt to smoke there.. Non smokers can choose to sit somewhere else, or not frequent the establishment. While I feel for the asthmatic, at least now there are no laws that say where you can and cannot wear perfume. I, myself have allergies, and some perfumes send me on sneezing fits, and I have to move. I know it's not as a severe problem, but I can understand where these conditions may have a negative effect.
Shawn Stover September 18, 2012 at 12:29 am
This is a perfect example of what is wrong with this country! People like to complain too much and tell everyone in the world how wrong another person is. They are just looking for a pity party and think that they are above everyone else. First of all, if you have ever been to a restaurant and paid attention then you would know that the outside sections almost always allow smoking.
If you don't want to be around smoking then you can either eat inside, request a outside table that is away from the majority of smokers, or make a "to go" order and take it to a park. In other words, if you don't like something then personally choose not to go around it. For example, if you are deathly afraid of bats then don't walk into a cave. Also, if you don't want to burn your hand then don't hold it over a fire. It's pretty plain and simple! However, you don't need to complain to the world...it's your own personal choice and other people do not need to be dragged into it.
PBK September 18, 2012 at 01:00 am
Sorry for your asthma issues...
SWYKLocal September 18, 2012 at 01:12 am
Great post Shawn.
william atwell September 18, 2012 at 05:32 am
Really? Worried about smoking outside? Come live my life! On Ftiday 14 September 2012 received a little love letter threating to burn a cross in my yard and burn my house because I choose to be a individual! And yo live in Upper St Clair! Is this the 21 st century? Or the 1920's? With the crazy need going on in the Middle East and my wife being of middle eastern distant go figure. So go ahead complain about sitting outside smelling smoke
PBK September 18, 2012 at 05:41 am
William,
I am so sorry that you received that letter, I am embarrassed for and by society so many times. It was totally wrong and does not represent the opinions of the vast majority of society. Honestly, it disgusts me. Have we learned nothing from the Japenese interntment camps during WWII? I will be bold and speak for every commentor here and offer an apology for some fools actions.
BTD September 18, 2012 at 12:26 pm
I do not feel sorry for Oren or anyone else who complains about smokers. Just for the record, I am a non-smoker. One of the few things I am allergic and sensitive to are colognes & perfumes, should we ban those at restaurants? When an old lady sits down next to me with heavy perfume on I can barely breathe. How about motor vehicles? The about the carbon monoxide and black soot that pours out of tailpipes from the vehicles driving in front of you can be nauseating and intoxicating, should we ban those as well? Are you aware of the coke plants in the Pittsburgh area that have been breaking air quality laws for the last 40 years? Get a grip. If you don't like the person smoking OUTSIDE who is sitting next to you, ask for a different seat or go to a restaurant that doesn't allow smoking.
kathy September 18, 2012 at 04:12 pm
Just for the record, The Clean Indoor Air Act, Act 27 of 2008, was signed into law on June 13, 2008. The legislation prohibits smoking in a public place or a workplace and also prohibits smoking in areas where children under the age of 18 are present. It would appear the establishment is non-compliant.
http://www.portal.state.pa.us/portal/server.pt/community/clean_indoor_air/14187
Outraged Citizen September 18, 2012 at 04:47 pm
@kathy – If you had read the legislation, you would have noted that it defines public place and workplace as “enclosed” and gives examples of what it means by “enclosed.” This is not the “catch-all” term you depict.
You would have also noted that it defines a “drinking establishment” as a place that does not admit those who are under 18 years of age, not all public places or workplaces. If you’re going to bloviate, at least do it with some semblance of credibility.
Robin M. September 18, 2012 at 05:00 pm
You can not simply tolerate unacceptable behavior by choosing to not go around it. Change is made by people who don't "choose not to go around it." Slavery, The Equal Rights Amendment. etc. I think having to suffer health consequences from second hand smoke is right up there with the aforementioned.
Outraged Citizen September 18, 2012 at 05:27 pm
@Robin M – Funny thing about banning “unacceptable behavior” in that who defines what’s “unacceptable”? Do you Robin? Do we go with majority rule? If so, what happens if the majority changes their collective minds? Do we constantly poll the public to determine public policy? Would you have us live under mob rule Robin? Do you prefer a society where chaos reigns?
The fact is YOU find smoking “unacceptable” and because it bothers YOUR delicate sensibilities, YOU would deny all citizens the ability to smoke. YOU can avoid smoking just as I can avoid the filthy habit. The difference is I’m not demanding people change their lives because I find the habit filthy. Your analogy to slavery is insulting and your reference to the failed Equal Rights Amendment is just bizarre.
kathy September 18, 2012 at 06:08 pm
Actually it doesn't matter if the eating area is enclosed it is still a workplace (and a smoking area must have separate access from the main dining area) and if children under the age of 18 are permitted to eat on the patio then smoking must be prohibited.
Anyway, why should non-smokers endure someone else's smoke while eating dinner? Why should a server put up with second hand smoke? Let smokers go outside to the parking lot or sidewalk if they can't go for 90 minutes without a cigarette.
Outraged Citizen September 18, 2012 at 06:36 pm
@kathy – The legislation clearly defines public place and workplace and states that it is an enclosed space. The legislation itself is called The Clean Indoor Air Act.
Further to your point regarding a separate entrance, the legislation actually states, “is a physically connected or directly adjacent ENCLOSED AREA which is separate from the eating area, has a separate air system and has a separate outside entrance.” [emphasis mine] Additionally, the only parts of the legislation that mention those under the age of 18 are the definition of “drinking establishment” and a place where a fundraiser is conducted. A “drinking establishment” is defined as a place where on-premises food sales are less than or equal to 20% of total revenue. This is not the definition of a restaurant. The legislation makes no mention of patios. A helpful hint would be to read the legislation before bloviating. As to your questions, you’re not forced to eat there, no one is forced to work there and the person smoking was outside.
Ed M September 18, 2012 at 06:42 pm
Actually Kathy, you are incorrect. As others have stated, please read the entire legislation. Don't cherry pick it for what you want it to say.
Greg H September 18, 2012 at 10:30 pm
I am surprised by the reaction (and irrelevant analogies) to this blog entry - the writer is simply expressing his opinion about the smoker and the restaurant. When sitting so close to someone at a restaurant, it is very rude to smoke and expose that person to tobacco smoke pollution. Although the Clean Indoor Air Act doesn't cover outdoor dining areas, most fine dining establishments have them (he was probably shocked by the exception). The best line in this post is the following: "I believe that an adult should generally have the ability to do whatever he or she wishes so long as their action does not have a detrimental effect on others."
PBK September 19, 2012 at 12:26 am
Greg,
The OP was expressing his opinion, but in this case it is pretty darn egocentric to sit in a smoking section of a restaurant and then complain that someone was smoking. It does not matter what his opinion is of smokers, meat eaters, shell fish eaters, or the color of the sky if the basis of the arguement is incorrect or inaccurate It is a smoking section, people smoke in a smoking section, if the smoke bothers you do not sit in the smoking section. Its a very simple concept. I've said, I don't smoke cigarettes, but if they bothered me I sure would not sit in a smoking section then proceed to castigate smokers and preach about it.
Shawn Stover September 22, 2012 at 12:46 am
@Robin - If someone was randomly firing a weapon, would you choose to go around it so that you could change their mind? If traffic was going too fast on a road, would you try to stand in the middle of it to try to get them to slow down? If you are allergic to peanut butter, would you try to avoid it in all of your foods or would you complain to the peanut butter company and try to get them to shut id down. Btw, peanut butter makes you fat and that's a large epidemic in this country (pun intended). Your explanation about slavery, equal rights, etc. does not make any sense. Slaves did not have a choice....you DO have a choice to not go around smokers.
proud American September 22, 2012 at 01:22 am
We still have a fews rights in this country don't know for how long. You have the right not to smoke and the other person had the right to smoke why should your right trump his. You weren't denied a smokless place to eat get over it.
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