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Murphy, a Former Psychologist, Responds to Connecticut School Tragedy

Murphy shares 10 suggestions to help adults reassure and comfort children during this difficult and confusing time.

 

U.S. Rep. Murphy (R-Upper St. Clair) released the following statement on the violent shootings at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT.  

"(Friday's) senseless tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School leaves us all shocked. We don’t have words to explain our grief, and we cannot begin to understand what would cause an individual to inflict this kind of pain on fellow human beings, let alone defenseless children. To the grieving families, our deepest condolences go out to you all. For the many teachers, first responders, police officers and emergency personnel who were focused on returning the students to safety, we thank you for putting yourself in harm's way to save a child's life. We hold you all close in our prayers.”

Prior to holding elected office, Murphy had a career in the mental health field—specializing in child psychology. Murphy says that hearing about an event as traumatic and horrific as the Connecticut elementary school shooting may affect children and parents far away from where the event occurred because it makes us all feel a little less safe.  

"Don’t ignore it," said Murphy. "It’s better to discuss it with children and for parents to discuss with each other. Over the coming days, many parents and children will be affected by the horrific level of the events. While some may be far away geographically, tragic events can hit very close to home emotionally. If your children are exhibiting signs of distress, please don’t ignore it.”

Murphy shared 10 suggestions to help adults reassure and comfort children during this difficult and confusing time:

  1. Ask your child what he/she heard about the incident.
  2. Listen to their concerns and emotions.
  3. Answer their questions with age appropriate information.
  4. Support, comfort and reassure them of their safety at home and school.
  5. Observe/watch for symptoms of problems: appetite, sleep, worries, aggression, anger, sadness.
  6. Protect them from other media exposure and information that creates more fear and problems.
  7. Call for other professional help for your child if needed.
  8. Review with school personnel how they are handling security and counseling students at school
  9. Pay attention to and take care of your own concerns and worries as a parent.
  10. Keep watch over time as concerns and symptoms may come later.

Later next week, Murphy will be participating in an in-depth discussion on this tragedy on C-SPAN’s Washington Journal on Wednesday morning along with his Mental Health Caucus co-chair U.S. Rep. Grace Napolitano. Since 2003, the Congressional Mental Health Caucus has worked in a bipartisan manner to inform, educate, and advocate to members of Congress and the public on a variety of mental health issues. 

Upper St. Clair Superintendent Patrick O'Toole also sent out a message to parents and the community following the shooting on Friday. Click here to read his letter.

Follow the latest updates on the tragedy on our sister Patch in Newtown.

Share your thoughts on the tragedy in the comments below.

Related Topics: Adam Lanza, Congress, Connecticut shooting, How To Talk To Children About Shooting, Upper St. Clair Superintendent, and tim murphy

Duke

1:44 pm on Saturday, December 15, 2012

If you follow Timmie's advice you and your children will become paranoid!

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Heather

5:05 pm on Saturday, December 15, 2012

I'm sorry but that is ridiculous. Not sure where you inferred that paranoia could come from the above tips.

Richard from Upper St Clair

11:12 pm on Saturday, December 15, 2012

Tim Murtha is a hypocrite.... I don't need his psycholigical advice.... I need him to sponsor a bill to have a complete ban on automatic and semi-automatic weapons

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Roger

7:11 am on Sunday, December 16, 2012

Richard, apparently, you think that laws will prevent these events to happen. Remember, we have many laws on the books against drunken driving. Every day, at least 27 people are killed by those driving drunk. The "27" is near the same number of people killed in the CT event. So, we are comfortable with the killing of the same number of people by DUI, yet get in a wad about this one incident. No, this is not to minimize the loss of lives in CT. However, 27 other lives are lost every day from selfish behaviors (that have laws in place), and it hardly gets a glance.

Please reconcile for us.

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Deb

10:12 am on Sunday, December 16, 2012

Roger, this is a false equivalency. The need to drive vs. the need to own raped-fire
guns does not make for a valid comparison.

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Laurie Mann

6:58 am on Monday, December 17, 2012

That won't happen. Like most Republicans, Murphy gets money from the NRA. If he had any decency, he'd return it, but he cares more about pleasing special interests than representing his constituents.

Richard from Upper St Clair

10:46 am on Sunday, December 16, 2012

There has been a dramatic decrease in drunk driving fatalities over the past 20 years.

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Roger

7:46 am on Monday, December 17, 2012

Loss of life is loss of life. Trying to suggest that a loss of life because of one reason, over another reason, is irrelevant. Also, suggesting that loss of life is more significant because of the age is also irrelevant (this one tears at the heartstrings of many). Who is the appointed one to assign level of importance and significance of a life? None of this is to marginalize the loss of life in the CT incident.

The CT incident happened three days ago. Since that time, nearly 100 people (using averages) have been killed by drunken drivers. The reasons behind this is no mystery. We need no talking heads on TV trying to explain in clinical terms, or in psychological terms, why this happened. Yet, the carnage continues with a mere "another one." We have a nation in mourning over the loss of 27 lives in CT. How to reconcile these two positions?

Yes, drunken driving deaths have decreased in recent years. Can we say that the rate of deaths on the road due to these selfish behaviors has now reached an acceptable level? Or, was 17,000 deaths a year acceptable? It was for many years. Apparently, any level is acceptable for drunken drivers, but 27 is a level at which a national movement is necessary to "stop any further carnage."

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Richard from Upper St Clair

10:18 am on Monday, December 17, 2012

I think it is great that you are so passionate about the tragedy that is caused by drunk driving.... The events of Friday should be a wake up call for action on assault weapons.... I think there is room for both causes... Acting on either.... Or the other several thousand great causes.... I think our responsibility as citizens is to make this world a better place.... A safe place.

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Duke

12:49 pm on Monday, December 17, 2012

Richard from Upper St. Clair - I think you should do a little research on what is an assault weapon. The semi-automatic rifle that the actor used to kill the children and others is not an assault weapon!

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Richard from Upper St Clair

3:55 pm on Monday, December 17, 2012

You are correct Duke , I am not an expert in regards to guns.... But I will be as we continue the discussion and the ultimate ban on automatic and semi automatic weapons in the U.S.

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